In response to the posts over the last few days from women (and some men as well), I wanted to say that I support you and I’m working everyday to teach, inspire and impact both boys and girls with my messages of kindness, acceptance, determination and Unplugging, through my frisbee workshops, through my Get Unplugg’d challenge and through my articles and videos.
This won’t change overnight. But we also didn’t get here overnight. There is a lot of work to do and it will take a lot of time and effort and having people deal with some hard truths. We need people to be better. We are capable of so much more.
If you need help, visit RAINN 24/7 live chat or phone support: https://www.rainn.org.
from Esther Perel:
One of the most painful aspects of trauma is a feeling of social isolation. Many victims remain silent out of shame and fear. #MeToo has created a community of support for many who felt alone. Understand that sharing can be healing – when we speak up in solidarity with others, we also speak up for ourselves. To those who have come forward, and those who have not, I stand with you. You are not alone.
I’ve learned a lot and am a student of life. I am fortunate to have some really passionate, empathetic, sincere and intelligent colleagues and I share some of their work below. Let me know if you think there are more that can be added to this list – this is by no means a finite list. The more resources the better.
Charlie Hoehn’s thoughts on the Vegas shooting as it relates to loneliness and lack of play .
Philip Zimbardo and Nikita Coulombe’s book Man Interrupted (an extension of Zimbardo’s TED Talk “The Demise of Guys”).
Boston Globe Article on how loneliness is the biggest threat facing middle aged men.
Article from The Good Men Project on how the lack of gentle platonic touch in men’s lives is a killer.
Philip Zimbardo’s TED Talk “The Demise of Guys” (my original source of inspiration for much of the work I do today)
Stefan Molyneux has a video in which he talks about the truth of single moms and the impact it has on kids, especially boys. (language warning in the video)
Article from Salon.com on how toxic masculinity is killing men and the roots of male trauma.